Loren in conversation with Armen Heining

Tantra Is Not About Sex: A Gay Man's Journey from Anger to Love

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July 15, 2026•1 min read

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What if the greatest transformation of your life didn't come from achieving more... but from surrendering?

In this episode of The Wisdom Trust Podcast, Loren Crawford sits down with Armin Heining, founder of Gay Tantra, to explore a remarkable journey through spirituality, sexuality, addiction, forgiveness, and conscious aging.

Armen shares how a longing for God led him into a Benedictine monastery, how his coming out inspired the creation of Gay Tantra, and how a personal crisis forced him to confront anger, addiction, and old wounds.

Together they explore:

The connection between spirituality and sexuality
Why tantra is much more than sex
The danger of the spiritual ego
Healing family wounds through forgiveness
Taking responsibility for your life
Conscious aging as a path of freedom
How gay men can move from fear toward love

For gay men over 50, this conversation offers a powerful reminder that growth doesn't stop with age. Sometimes our most meaningful transformations happen in our wisdom years.

Find Armin at https://www.gay-tantra.eu/

If you're interested in deeper connection, chosen family, emotional growth, purpose, spirituality, and conscious aging, you're in the right place.

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Chapters

00:35 Introduction to Armin Heining
02:35 Spiritual beginnings in a monastery
03:35 Founding Gay Tantra
05:05 Addiction, crisis, and awakening
11:15 Taking responsibility for your life
12:20 Forgiveness and family healing
15:15 Reigniting purpose and vocation
16:35 A Course in Miracles and love
18:05 Why tantra is more than sex
21:35 Understanding the spiritual ego
25:20 Aging, surrender, and wisdom
29:05 Finding joy later in life
32:35 Simple practices for peace

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Loren Crawford

Loren Crawford is a wellness coach, meditation teacher, and founder of The Wisdom Trust for Gay Men 50+. Drawing on more than two decades of experience in coaching, yoga, and personal growth, he helps men navigate the challenges and opportunities of the wisdom years with greater purpose, connection, and authenticity. Through his writing, podcast, and community, Loren explores what it means to build a meaningful life after 50—one grounded in belonging, emotional honesty, and the courage to keep becoming who we truly are.

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